What's more interesting, though, is the comments section, wherein whiny little (undoubtedly bleached blond) bride wannabes kvetch that "Bridezilla" is bandied about superfluously and with malice:
I take issue with your title though. Why did you have to use the term bridezilla? I am a newlywed and, frankly, I’m sick of hearing it tossed around. - Comment #3 from Poster "Kate" -
Parker-Pope defends herself well enough:
A normal weight woman who obsesses about weight loss and buys a too-small dress and starves herself to fit into it qualifies as a bridezilla in my opinion. - TPP
Here's my issue though: Parker-Pope says "Bridezilla" is a light-hearted term. Maybe to her, but I'm a veteran of the overdone wedding, and the term Bridezilla has entered the cultural lexicon for a reason: women drive themselves (and everyone around them) absolutely up the wall with these ridiculously lavish weddings. They are too expensive, overplanned, excessively "fancy" and tarfetta'd and flowered up. "Bridezilla" exists, she is real and she is terrifying. She wants her Special Day to be All Things to All People, and Galt help us all if it's a "society" wedding. That just ratchets the Bridezilla-factor to an 11.
Look, ladies, it's time for some self-esteem: the defining moments in your life are not going to be these scripted and extravagant events where most of the gentlemen in the audience just want to know where the beer is and the ladies are gossiping about you or dressing you down. uh-uh. You're a person with a life, career (hopefully you haven't resigned yourself to the alcoholic dullery that is housewifery), a past, a present and a future. You need to take back the wedding from the Clutching Grasp of Societal Expectations and make it about you, and what you want, not what Mom & Dad and the second-cousins expect.
One clueless commenter nails it, though she's too dumb to realize it:
I just fail to see how “bridezilla” is in fact a lighthearted term. While I know the taffeta beast lurks out there, and have known one in my lifetime, it’s not a term I like to see thrown around at will - especially when describing presumably normal young women thrown into a morass of unliveable expectations and increasing debt. - Comment #13 from Poster
Who was it that sanctioned and accepted that debt and those unlivable expectations again? Yes, it's these things that turn brides into Bridezilla, but that's the whole point: it's the bride's own damn fault if she places the expectations of others on herself!
A classy, modern society (with a 40-60% divorce rate) would frown on someone spending 10-50Gs to fulfill the expectations of others. Of course, grooms need to quit listening to the brainless advice of "just go along for the ride" and help the women they love stop acting like faux Society Girls with a bad case of the "gimmes".